"Stall, Deny and Hope They Die": The VA's Unwritten Policy
Pictured is Denise. She is at Robins Air Force Base. Why? She is picking up her VA spousal ID. The problem? She is picking it up some 20+ years late. You see, Denise’s husband died of Non-Hodgkin's lymphoma (NHL) in July of 1996. As a Vietnam Veteran, her benefits were a done deal? Right. That whole presumptive thing? Just ask Mr. Nehmer. Well, if you are reading this, you probably know that the story isn’t that simple. However, what you probably won’t believe is that it took Denise over 20, yes 20, years, to finally obtain a Judge’s order granting her DIC benefits. I personally know of no other person who has litigated a case that long against the VA—continuously. She has to be a contender for the top 5. Denise calls her case "Stall, Deny and Hope They Die": - The VA's Unwritten Policy, and she wrote a book to tell you all about it!
DOGE Alert: My $1,000 appeal Cost the Government $15,000
Perhaps the memo hasn’t reached the BVA. This administration is all about conserving scarce government resources. As the saying goes, there are three fights with the VA. The fight for service-connection, the fight for the right rating, and finally, the fight for the correct effective date. What if the VA gets your effective date wrong by just one month? It is only 1,000 bucks. Should you file an appeal? Well, we did just that, and it costs the government well over $15,000 to get a lesson in Special Monthly Compensation (“SMC”) effective dates.
Beyond the BBQ: Service and Success This Independence Day
Jeff came to me in January of 2024. He is one of those types of guys where when you hear what all he has done, you immediately know his awards and decorations spill over into box 18 of the ole DD-214. First a Marine, then a pararescueman. You don’t see that combo-box every day. Jeff recently got a full Board grant for everything but the kitchen sink. It will make celebrating this Fourth of July that much better for him. While Jeff’s active-duty days may be over, the spirit he embodies is alive and well, and very fitting for a Fourth of July story.
The Rest of the Story: Annette’s Side of Things
I began pestering Annette just before Thanksgiving for some pictures of her and Monte. When I explained what I was up to, she said she didn’t mind if I used their names. I was delighted. The amount of lives you touch doing this grows rapidly. It always brings me joy to share some of these stories. You heard my side of representing Annette in my Thanksgiving post. Now, Annette gives us “the rest of the story”.
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Accreditation
- Nov 14, 2025 H.R. 3132 – A Bill That Harms Veterans Nov 14, 2025
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Board of Veterans' Appeals
- Aug 22, 2025 DOGE Alert: My $1,000 appeal Cost the Government $15,000 Aug 22, 2025
- Jul 3, 2025 Beyond the BBQ: Service and Success This Independence Day Jul 3, 2025
- Apr 18, 2025 Life in the Fast Lane Apr 18, 2025
- Dec 11, 2024 VA Benefits for Camp Lejeune Family Members? Dec 11, 2024
- Dec 4, 2024 The Rest of the Story: Annette’s Side of Things Dec 4, 2024
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CAVC
- Oct 22, 2025 Court Denies VA’s Request to Stay Pending Cases Oct 22, 2025
- Jun 13, 2025 Out of the Trenches, Into the Sea Jun 13, 2025
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Camp Lejeune Family Member Program
- Dec 11, 2024 VA Benefits for Camp Lejeune Family Members? Dec 11, 2024
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DIC
- Dec 4, 2024 The Rest of the Story: Annette’s Side of Things Dec 4, 2024
- Nov 27, 2024 A Deserving Widow’s Thanksgiving Just got Better Nov 27, 2024
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Legislation
- Nov 14, 2025 H.R. 3132 – A Bill That Harms Veterans Nov 14, 2025
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Survivor's Benefits
- Oct 31, 2025 "Stall, Deny and Hope They Die": The VA's Unwritten Policy Oct 31, 2025
- Dec 4, 2024 The Rest of the Story: Annette’s Side of Things Dec 4, 2024
- Nov 27, 2024 A Deserving Widow’s Thanksgiving Just got Better Nov 27, 2024
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VA Idiocracy
- Aug 22, 2025 DOGE Alert: My $1,000 appeal Cost the Government $15,000 Aug 22, 2025
- Nov 23, 2024 BVA Declares War on Most Severe Veterans Nov 23, 2024
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Victories
- Oct 31, 2025 "Stall, Deny and Hope They Die": The VA's Unwritten Policy Oct 31, 2025
- Jul 3, 2025 Beyond the BBQ: Service and Success This Independence Day Jul 3, 2025
- Dec 11, 2024 VA Benefits for Camp Lejeune Family Members? Dec 11, 2024
- Dec 4, 2024 The Rest of the Story: Annette’s Side of Things Dec 4, 2024
- Nov 27, 2024 A Deserving Widow’s Thanksgiving Just got Better Nov 27, 2024
- Nov 23, 2024 Why I’m Still on a Mission Nov 23, 2024


The byproduct of any government menagerie is inefficiency. The solution? Congress has provided folks like me—agents and attorneys—be allowed to represent Veterans; help them navigate the complicated maze and red tape in order to secure benefits to which they are rightfully entitled. In exchange for a fee, the Veteran gets his or her benefits, I earn a modest living. There is also a safety net—if a Veteran believes I have pulled a fast one, they have a venue to be heard, to ask the VA to reduce my fee. Congress is trying to end that safety net. That’s bad for you, it’s bad for me.